Living in the Both/And

Our hearts are capable of holding so much more

than we give ourselves credit for.

We can be happy, hurting, and healing.

All at the same time.

This is the quiet, divine magic of the human experience.

It doesn’t mean we’re confused or contradicting ourselves.

We were made to experience the whole spectrum of emotions.

And we’re not meant to shove one feeling aside to make room for another.

There’s space for all of it.

We’re meant to learn to allow multiple truths to coexist together.

To honor the fullness of our emotional experience

without overriding any part of it.

You can hold the pain of a difficult situation

without bypassing it,

while also

holding hope and the desire

for a resolution,

while also

staying open to possible solutions

(even if it’s not what you wanted),

and

feel sad and heartbroken

for yourself and others involved,

and

have gratitude for the lessons and growth

the situation is bringing you,

and, at the same time,

feel relieved that it isn’t worse…

✨ Self-Love doesn’t mean choosing positive feelings over difficult ones ~

it means allowing them all to be present within you.

You can grieve what didn’t happen

and feel grateful for what did.

You can be sad about one aspect of a situation

and feel happy about another.

You can wish things were different

and still trust that something meaningful is unfolding.

None of these feelings cancel each other out.

They all belong.

They’re all valid responses to different facets of the same experience.

One of the great gifts of being human

is having this capacity for vast emotional complexity.

We get to carry tenderness and strength in the same breath.

Vulnerability and courage.

Fear and faith.

Loss and learning.

Uncertainty and trust.

You’re allowed to embrace the grey areas ~ it’s encouraged!

You’re being invited to soften your grip on "either/or" thinking

and open to the inherent wisdom of "both/and."

When we welcome the full range of emotional experiences into our heart,

we deepen our understanding of ourselves.

Which naturally increases our empathy, resilience, and grace ~

for ourselves and for others.

You don’t need to force certainty or positivity.

Give yourself permission to be with the complexity of what you feel…

Love yourself enough to welcome the Wholeness of your experience.

"Wholeness is not achieved by cutting off a portion of one’s being,

but by integration of the contraries." ~ Carl Jung

💞 A Moment of Both/And:

Place one hand on your heart and one on your belly.

Take a slow breath in…. And a long breath out.

Quietly acknowledge to yourself:

“I can hold more than one feeling at a time.”

Let your body soften as you make room for all that’s present.

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Let’s rise together ~ in Love & Light,

Jaime

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