From Fixing & Judging → To Feeling & Loving

In the last post, we talked about loving and accepting ourselves profoundly,

instead of trying to fix our flaws or striving to achieve more.

Those urges appear when there’s a feeling we’re avoiding…

and avoidance often comes with judgement as its companion.

Anytime we feel the need to fix ourselves so we can be ‘better’,

it’s always because we’re judging ourselves.

We judge the tender, ashamed, angry, or fearful parts of us,

instead of Allowing ourselves to fully experience those feelings.

Self-judgement is often just a coping mechanism —

a way to distract ourselves from emotions we learned weren't safe to feel.

Somewhere inside, we believe that being hard on ourselves

will motivate us to fix ourselves,

which will somehow protect us from feeling pain and disappointment.

✨ But judgement isn’t protection… it’s disconnection.

It causes us to feel separate from others,

and even worse,

disconnected from ourselves.

So when you notice that you’re judging yourself,

you have a sacred opportunity to break the pattern

by choosing a radically different response:

Allow yourself to feel the discomfort beneath the judgement.

And that’s when the magic happens ~

When we love ourselves enough 

to be present with our feelings instead of avoiding them,

everything softens...

The judgement begins to dissolve,

along with the urge to fix.

And what’s beautiful,

is from that space of loving presence

where we Allow ourselves to feel the feelings,

Aligned Action naturally emerges,

and then we make more loving choices for ourselves.

As we practice Self-Love,

we learn to Allow ourselves to be with the underlying feelings,

and we become centered and empowered.

We're able to move from our hearts,

instead of from the wounded spaces within.

When you step away from fixing and judging,

and lean into feeling and loving,

then you’re living from your heart,

leading with the essence of who you truly are.

 “When you live from the heart, your every action becomes a reflection of love, not fear.” ~ Mooji

💖 Let’s make a little pact:

The next time we catch ourselves in a moment of self-judgement,

let’s pause, breathe, and meet the feelings beneath it

with compassion, understanding, and love.

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