There Are No Bad Emotions

Most of us were raised to believe

that there are "good" emotions and "bad" emotions.

Some feelings are acceptable for us to have.

And some are unacceptable (because they’re too messy).

So the pleasant emotions are welcomed.

While the difficult ones are often stifled, avoided, or hidden away.

This conditioning is so deeply woven into our culture

that most of us rarely even question it.

But almost all of us have experienced it.

We’ve been told to just "stop crying."

We’ve been sent to our room until we could "pull ourselves together."

We’ve been encouraged to distract ourselves, cheer up, or "just have fun"

when what we really needed

was for someone to simply sit with us in our pain.

It makes sense that many of us learned to judge ourselves

when we’re having a difficult emotion.

Of course we’ve learned to suppress our tears,

pretend we’re fine, and bypass what we’re really feeling

so we don’t make anyone else uncomfortable.

It’s understandable that we’ve learned to isolate ourselves

because it doesn't feel safe to be seen in our vulnerability.

We’ve even learned to feel ashamed

when we can’t perform at our usual level

during a particularly hard season of life.

But even though it makes sense that we’ve learned this conditioning,

that doesn’t mean it’s healthy.

Or even remotely okay.

All of these learned behaviors around our difficult emotions

create so much dis-ease within our bodies.

They contribute to anxiety.

They disconnect us from ourselves and others.

Because when we label any emotion as "bad,"

we begin to believe there’s something wrong with us for feeling it.

But there is nothing wrong with you,

no matter what you’re feeling.

✨ Our emotions are valid. All of our emotions are necessary.

There are no bad emotions

because every feeling you experience

is part of being human.

Grief, sadness, fear, and anger

belong just as much

as excitement, joy, peace, and love.

The path of Self-Love

asks you to learn a new way of showing up for yourself,

no matter what you’re feeling ~

with open arms, with care, with understanding,

and with equal acceptance for all of your emotions.

When you stop stifling and avoiding unpleasant feelings,

you can begin to truly feel safe and at home within yourself.

All of your emotions are essential to your Wholeness.

"Pain is not wrong. Reacting to pain as if it’s wrong initiates the trance of unworthiness."

~ Tara Brach

💛 Emotional Safety:

I invite you to close your eyes for a moment

and feel your breath moving in and out of your body.

Then lovingly ask yourself:

"What would it feel like if all of my emotions were welcome here?"

Take a moment to breathe into whatever arises.

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Let’s rise together ~ in Love & Light,

Jaime

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